What should I do? I met an amazing boy online, and my parents don’t know?
This post was written by admin on June 24, 2008
Posted Under: Singles Dating
Posted Under: Singles Dating
I’m_so_worried asked:
I met a boy online, and I love him very much, and he feels the same about me. My love for him is indescribable. He lives about two hours away, and I don’t have my license yet. He’s suicidal, and has stopped taking his meds. He lives a really tough life, I don’t know how he does it. I asked him, What would it take to make you happy instead of depressed all of the time? And he said, You in my arms everyday. He was being serious too. My parents don’t know about our relationship, and if I told them, they would have a break down, and I would die. I can’t tell them, and I’ve honestly thought about asking if we could move around the area he’s in. I know, selfish right? Anyways, I don’t know what to do. I want to be there to hold him everyday and tell him that everything will be alright. He tells me he loves me all the time. I know he would be better if I was around. What should I do? I know he’s not a predator, I’ve spoken with his parents and even his younger brother… WHAT SHOULD I DO?
I met a boy online, and I love him very much, and he feels the same about me. My love for him is indescribable. He lives about two hours away, and I don’t have my license yet. He’s depressed, and has stopped taking his meds. He lives a really tough life, I don’t know how he does it. I asked him, What would it take to make you happy instead of depressed all of the time? And he said, You in my arms everyday. He was being serious too. My parents don’t know about our relationship, and if I told them, they would have a break down, and I would die. I can’t tell them, and I’ve honestly thought about asking if we could move around the area he’s in. I know, selfish right? Anyways, I don’t know what to do. I want to be there to hold him everyday and tell him that everything will be alright. He tells me he loves me all the time. I know he would be better if I was around. What should I do? I know he’s not a predator, I’ve spoken with his parents and even his younger brother… WHAT SHOULD I DO
I wouldn’t say he’s suicidal, but he has thought about it. He really lives a tough life, it’s no wonder he’s always depressed…
We’ve spoken on the phone, once for eight hours straight, talking about absolutely nothing. Yet every five minutes he would always say, I love you.
I met a boy online, and I love him very much, and he feels the same about me. My love for him is indescribable. He lives about two hours away, and I don’t have my license yet. He’s suicidal, and has stopped taking his meds. He lives a really tough life, I don’t know how he does it. I asked him, What would it take to make you happy instead of depressed all of the time? And he said, You in my arms everyday. He was being serious too. My parents don’t know about our relationship, and if I told them, they would have a break down, and I would die. I can’t tell them, and I’ve honestly thought about asking if we could move around the area he’s in. I know, selfish right? Anyways, I don’t know what to do. I want to be there to hold him everyday and tell him that everything will be alright. He tells me he loves me all the time. I know he would be better if I was around. What should I do? I know he’s not a predator, I’ve spoken with his parents and even his younger brother… WHAT SHOULD I DO?
I met a boy online, and I love him very much, and he feels the same about me. My love for him is indescribable. He lives about two hours away, and I don’t have my license yet. He’s depressed, and has stopped taking his meds. He lives a really tough life, I don’t know how he does it. I asked him, What would it take to make you happy instead of depressed all of the time? And he said, You in my arms everyday. He was being serious too. My parents don’t know about our relationship, and if I told them, they would have a break down, and I would die. I can’t tell them, and I’ve honestly thought about asking if we could move around the area he’s in. I know, selfish right? Anyways, I don’t know what to do. I want to be there to hold him everyday and tell him that everything will be alright. He tells me he loves me all the time. I know he would be better if I was around. What should I do? I know he’s not a predator, I’ve spoken with his parents and even his younger brother… WHAT SHOULD I DO
I wouldn’t say he’s suicidal, but he has thought about it. He really lives a tough life, it’s no wonder he’s always depressed…
We’ve spoken on the phone, once for eight hours straight, talking about absolutely nothing. Yet every five minutes he would always say, I love you.
Reader Comments
uhm he sounds really emotional.
why dont you two just meet up somewhere in a mall or soemthing.. rather than you moving all the way near his place.
i dont think you should even tell your parents yet. just meet up first and see how things go from there.
This really depends on how old you are.
i date without my parents knowing it. and tell them when the right moment comes, only dont make him look bad, and dont tell them that he’s suicidal. get a friend that could give u ride, and go visit him sometime.
anyways, good luck
well you need to meet him first um how old are you mabey you can see if he can come out there to see you but not to be rood but this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship sorry
u need to let your parents knwo so they can get hinm some help before something happens i mean if he is suisidle then he needs help asap.
Like you said he’s just a boy you’re still young. If you really care for him then you would want your parents to know about him. Your parents would be concern because you only know this boy through the computer do you actually really know him. Anyone can make themselves who they want to be.
try 2 find a job so that yal can sve up ya money so that yall can move in with each other and then u wont have 2 tell everyone ya business.
OMG, are you serious? You are in love with someone you’ve never met? How old are you? Does this sound like a balanced person to you-he’s suicidal and stopped taking his meds?!?!? I don’t agree with this but if you are that serious you need to talk to your parents-you’ve talked to his, why hasn’t he talked to yours?-about arranging a family weekend visit to the place he lives. That means parents go with you- you DO NOT GO ALONE. Stay at a hotel close to his place and then everyone can meet at restaurant or something for dinner and get to know each other.
i think u only have two choices to make here:
1. find a way(maybe by bus, taxi, or get someone to drive u, or tell him to see you)to see him behind your parents bak
2.or just tell ur parents.
im srry that there isnt an easier way out, but welcome to the real world.sometimes i feeel exactly how u feel but i know that i need to do what is right and i think ur caught in the middle of a bad situation.
srry i couldnt be more hel, hopefully someone else will answer better.
anyways Good luck to you.!
p.s. how old are u anyway?
hum, anyone can tell you that shit and make you fell that way over the net. how come you only met his family and not him [you never mentioned him]. I think this guy seriously needs help. What do you mean suicidal? Is he psycho? Well he might be telling you lies or the truth. I would think he is just a lonely person who needs to go out more often. Meet up with him first, see how he really is in real life. Will he be the same as he shows online or somebody else? I think you should get to know him first, that is in reality, not online. Sometimes meeting someone online is just trouble… SOMETIMES. The best thing is to tell your parents about him cos it seems like he has some issues!
First off, a few key words are sticking out to me here: SUICIDAL, LOVE, and PREDATOR. And you talked to his parents and his younger brother where and/or how? Online? Over the phone? One thing you need to learn about internet contact and relationships is that people can make you see and think what they want (which means others can be in on the scheme). I also don’t understand how you can be in love with someone that you have never met. Also, why would you want to be involved with someone suicidal? You need to really consider the stability of someone who doesn’t really want to live their life, especially if you love and respect yours. Not to sound insensitive in any way, but I had a friend in high school who was suicidal, and you really need to be careful and watch how your involve yourself with people like that. I know that these internet things can be exciting and entertaining to write people and have them write back, but you sound pretty young and you really do need to watch whom you take seriously when you chit-chat. And after you hold him every day then what? What does he do with is life? How old is he? You also need to consider that something you need to keep secret or from people like your parents may not always be a good thing. If it can’t be out in the open, you need to wonder how real that really is. Just be careful. Girls get caught up, lied to, and played every day. And you need to really consider what love really means. That word is misused in so many ways every day. So even others’ perspective on what it means can be totally different from yours. Just be wise in this situation. Don’t get caught up in something that you think is really real and it really isn’t. And remember, you can’t save anyone. People have to want to change themselves for the better or they can’t add anyting positive to you.
Please listen to me Im so……..My daughter is 24 years old now. When she was 20 she met a man on line left home to be with him, at first I did not even know where she was for 3 months. Every night I was scared to watch the news because I thought I would hear she was dead, or to answer my telephone. She finally let me know what she was doing and where she was. She called home, I went to see her. We are from a town in central Michigan and she moved to Taylor MI, a suburb of Detroit. I was relieved to hear from her, but upset because of what she has done. It has been a struggle for 4 and a half years. This man that lured her down there made all these great promises and did not keep his word. He took advantage of a young impressionable 20 year old. Now she has 2 children from this guy, he will not take responsibility for his own children and she has no means to support herself and her children. She will not come home so her family can help her . She finally wised up and left him, and now he is taking her to court to get custody of the children. But for the last 4 years him and his family has evaded any responsibility to my daughter and these children. My daughter was 8 months pregnant before she seen a doctor for prenatal care for the second child……there are so many things I could tell you, that she has went threw……..all because she believed in this man. He dupped her. I am Pleading with you Im so…..as a mother………Please only date boys from your school or church. This Internet dating and hooking up is so not good. You are so young……You said yourself your parents would not approve……please let them guide you through your teenage and young adult life. That is their duty as your parents. Please do not be head strong and hurt yourself. Listen to your parents guidance. Please. I love and Adore my 2 grandchildren, but their parents do not have a clue on how to raise children and what it means to be obligated to one another or their immediate family. My daughter knew while she was at home…..now because of all the interference, she doesn’t . She lives recklessly and without a care for tomorrow. She has lost foresight, self respect and her dignity because of this person. Please I’m so………..Please just stop communicating with this person. I am so concerned for you and young kids like you. Please drop this guy. You deserve to have a relationship with some-one your parents can inter act with and have a relationship with also. If you isolate yourself as you are you maybe headed down a very difficult road just like my daughter. Your parents only have your best interests at heart, no one on earth will look out for you as well as your parents……ever………ever………..ever! You are their daughter, who could ever love you more than the people that gave you life?
Just wanted to stop by and give u a little bit of advice cause ive gone through a similr situation. It might not be the best news for you though and i know u are expecting that and there is a reason people say stay away from situations such as this. You have to also take into account that another reason you like to be with him and talk with him is probably cause you think that you are the only one who can make him feel better about himself and help him through his rough times. Please be very careful of this situation as time progresses he might start pushing the blame on u for his actions and his not taking his meds and eventually he will use that to keep you close to him. please be careful before you do anything. If you think you cant tell your parents, its probably for the good. Your gut is telling you that it is wrong what you are doing and sometimes its best to go with ur gut.