Online relationships? Can becoming too attached to someone online be dangerous?
Posted Under: Singles Dating
Hi, I would like feedback about online relationships. I play a very popular game called runescape. I am sure that some of you have heard of this RPG game before….
I have many friends on runescape that I occassionally talk to, about lvs, armor, different aspects of the game itself. However there is this one girl who I am becoming really attached to…I have spoken with her for about three weeks now and we just click really well. I am aware of the fact that it could be a trap and it could really be a sexual predator however she seems very legit and nice and truthful..I have let my guard down and I am beginning to really really like her, I know she feels the same way..We have exchanged email addresses and myspaces. She has given me her phone number although I have not called it yet since my phone is out of commission. She sent me a picture of her along with where she goes to school. We are becoming steadfast friends. We have been in great arguments on Runescape. For me, it is more than just a game, it is a chance to connect with someone who iI am geographically unable to meet in person. I think she is beginning to grow on me…I am afraid that if she is not who she says she is, I hope she is…than I would be heart broken. I have already become attached, I am vulnerable,…is this dangerous?
Reader Comments
it can get dangerous… but since you have her myspace… talk to some of her friends.. to make sure she’s legit..
then check again by calling… with a friend’s cell…
I think you’re already aware of the potential dangers, so in that respect, I will remind you only to be aware of your own personal security at all times. Someone who seems truthful may well be truthful, but they may not be. So, it’s best to be guarded until you can be sure.
That being said, the thing that I think is important to keep in mind when it comes to online friendships and relationships is that they are what they are: online. Some online friendships and relationships can successfully blossom into much more (I’ve met many real-life friends online initially), but it’s important to remember that once that transition is made, you’re no longer dealing with a relationship that can easily be controlled or placed on the back burner at times of inconvenience. Instead, you’re in a position to know all aspects of that person all the time, and as such, some of the shine often wears off. Even so, it’s often worth it in my book.
In short, as long as you keep your own personal security in mind and give the relationship ample time to develop, I think you’ll be okay.